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Loving Your Neighbors Through...Domestic Abuse

On average, nearly 20 people per minute are physically abused by an intimate partner in the United States. During one year, this equates to more than 10 million women and men. ... 1 in 7 women and 1 in 25 men have been injured by an intimate partner.

Our own local influencer, Sergeant Enriquez Ignacio from the Fox Cities Appleton Police Department, talks about The Salvation Army and loving your Neighbors through domestic abuse.

If you would like to submit a tip to the Appleton Police Department, click here.

Please Note: This email is for tips for the Appleton Police Department the non-emergency line at 920-832-5500 can also be used.(Email is not monitored 24 hours a day/7 days a week) Email sent through the website will be reviewed as soon as possible by our staff, for urgent matters or questions that cannot wait please phone the non-emergency line at 920-832-5500.

Harbor House is the singular agency in Outagamie and Calumet Counties committed to the awareness and prevention of domestic abuse. Our mission is to empower communities to be free from domestic abuse through safety, knowledge, and engagement.

Frequently Asked Questions About Domestic Violence

Am I being abused?

Domestic abuse is a pattern of coercive and controlling behavior used in an ongoing, familiar relationship.

An abuser may control or harm the entire household. Anyone can become a victim of domestic abuse. Abuse occurs in all cultural, economic, and religious groups, among all gender identities, sexual orientations, and across the lifespan. Abusers can be spouses, partners, adult children or other family members or caregivers.

What can I do if I'm being abused?

If someone is abusing you, you might feel scared, hurt, sad, confused, angry, embarrassed, or hopeless.

Many people have feelings like these when they are being abused or after leaving an abusive relationship. Help is available. Talk with someone you trust or call your local domestic/sexual abuse hotline and talk with someone without having to give your name or location. To find the nearest domestic abuse hotline in WI, click HERE. If you do not live in WI, call the National Domestic Violence Hotline, 1- 800-799-SAFE or 1-800-799-7233.

What to expect from a domestic violence program?

What to expect if you call a program:

A caring listening ear. All programs have people who can listen and help you sort out options.

Advocacy services. Most programs have specially trained advocates who can help with welfare, CPS, disability services, immigration, housing, employment protections, and more.

Emergency shelter. Many programs offer shelter or safe homes.

Transitional housing. Some programs have longer term housing for survivors.

Support groups. Some programs run groups for children, youth and adults.

Legal advocacy. Most programs offer information about protection orders and other civil matters. Most do not provide legal counsel, but can refer you to free or low cost attorneys.

Crisis services. Many programs offer 24-hour crisis services.

Why do victims stay with an abuse or return after they have left?

There are numerous reasons why victims maintain contact with abusers or feel they cannot leave an abusive relationship. Victims of abuse often love or care about the people who harm them. Keeping the family together may be very important to the victim for many reasons, including for the sake of children or religious and cultural beliefs. Some victims fear that they will be seriously hurt or killed if they leave their abusers. Others do not have the financial resources and/or housing they need to leave. Medical conditions and disabilities may make living on their own difficult or impossible or the abusive individual may need the victims care.

Everyone fights sometimes. How can I tell a fight from abuse?

Disagreements occur in most relationships. Sometimes those arguments are loud and people say things that hurt each other’s feelings. However, in most relationships, adults say they are sorry and make up. No one gets physically hurt. When there is abuse, one person uses power and control to get what they want out of the relationship. There may or may not be physical abuse in the relationship, but the threat of harm is present. The person with the power uses many tactics to maintain their control in the relationship, including emotional and psychological abuse, threats of physical violence or abandonment, isolating the individual from family and friends, limiting the victim’s use of phone, breaking assistive devices and denying health care. Individuals who use power and control tactics in a relationship can be very persuasive, often trying to convince family, friends and professionals that they are only trying to help. Abusive individuals rarely take any responsibility for their inappropriate behavior.

Does anger cause abuse?

Anger is a normal and healthy emotion and does not cause abuse. Even though abusers can be angry at times, abuse happens when an individual chooses manipulative, threatening or physically violent behavior to gain power and control over another individual. Abusive tactics may occur without any anger evident in the abuser.

How does domestic abuse affect a victim's health?

Domestic abuse is rarely a one-time event; it usually gets worse and happens more often. The damage to victims is real. Domestic violence is the leading cause of injury to women in the United States. According to the U.S. Bureau of Justice Statistics, men batter close to one million women a year. Untold numbers of women suffer permanent injuries—brain damage, blindness, deafness, speech loss through damage to the larynx, disfigurement and mutilation, damage to or loss of internal organs, paralysis, sterility, and so on.
Women who are victims of domestic violence are more likely to attempt suicide, suffer from depression, anxiety, general chronic pain, headaches, gastrointestinal disorders, arthritis, and stomach ulcers. Many pregnant women miscarry as a result of beatings; and many birth defects are caused by assault on the mother during pregnancy. Many women have been infected with HIV by batterers who force them into unprotected sex. And every day in 1998, five women died violently at the hands of men who claimed to love them—accounting for one-third of all women murdered that year.

Resource: https://www.endabusewi.org/get-help/